Many new marriages begin with it. Everyone has their reasons behind how the got it – and how it made sense at the time to go into it – but don’t necessarily know what to do get rid of it. I’m talking about debt, and how there is a positive aspect of bringing it into a new marriage.
We all have a God complex. We like to associate ourselves as being the hero in the story. So when people consider becoming foster or adoptive parents, they bring that mindset to the table as well. The problem is, there is only one Savior – and we are not Him.
Parenting is humbling. I mean, it sure is easy to stand in front of a group and teach them what is right and true. It’s an entirely different thing to have a “student” with you day in and day out watching to see if you “practice what you preach.” Their life ends up revealing yours.
It would seem like a reintroduction might be appropriate at this point. After all, it has been over a month since I last wrote a substantive article for this blog. Let me explain why…
Two years ago my family was changed forever, and it happened through a simple phone call. A couple of years and two new kids later, it has become our new normal. I’m glad our local TV station was interested to share it with others.
We’ve all heard the stories. It’s the stories parents share in Christmas cards and at cocktail parties. You know, those stories where their child was just elected this or just happened to earn that award. It’s what we parents all do, because we love our kids. But are the stories we’re telling more than we think they are?
How do you have a great marriage? That’s the million dollar question. I don’t know of any guy that proposed to his girlfriend with the lofty goal of having a mediocre life together. No, the desire is much different, but how you get there is worthy of discussion.
What do you do when you can tell your child is beginning to shut down on you? I’ve looked into the eyes of countless parents who were grasping for anything that might help “fix” their son or daughter. Maybe the answer lies in understanding more of what God has done with his children.
My wife says I said it. I don’t believe her. I’m far too spiritual to say something so err….unspiritual. It was in a conversation over 10 years ago now that she suggested that we adopt a child. My answer was short and sweet. “No.” And then apparently I followed it up with, “And don’t pray that God changes my heart on this one.” Apparently, she did, and so did He.
Her comment surprised me. It was made nonchalantly to her friend, but definitely caught my ear as I thought about the weight of her words. “This has been the toughest year of our marriage.” It’s one thing to hear someone admit that, it’s an entirely different thing when it is your own wife that says it.