What do you do when you can tell your child is beginning to shut down on you? I’ve looked into the eyes of countless parents who were grasping for anything that might help “fix” their son or daughter. Maybe the answer lies in understanding more of what God has done with his children.
Her comment surprised me. It was made nonchalantly to her friend, but definitely caught my ear as I thought about the weight of her words. “This has been the toughest year of our marriage.” It’s one thing to hear someone admit that, it’s an entirely different thing when it is your own wife that says it.
We are used to calling the expert. It’s what we do anytime something around us needs to be repaired. It might be when our car breaks down, our air-conditioner quits cooling, or when our back pain won’t seem to go away. If in doubt, we call in someone who knows what they’re doing. So why would we think differently when it comes to our own kids?
Many men are good at going to church. But when it comes to leading their wives spiritually, its a completely different story. Their lives are marked by passivity covered in shame. Deep down, they know they should be doing something, but they can’t quite put their finger on exactly what that is.
Like many well-meaning parents, I look for opportunities to teach my kids truth from the Bible. We talk about Jesus, read stories from the Scriptures, and talk about what it looks like to honor God with our lives. But so many parents inadvertently dummy-down the Bible in the process. The result is toxic.
Becoming a new parent can be downright terrifying. Like many of you, I remember being surprised they actually let me leave the hospital with our baby. I kept telling myself to look confident and defer to my wife when the nurses asked me questions. This post is for men who were just like me.
This past Saturday was an ordinary Saturday morning. I was drinking coffee and reading a book. Steph was enjoying the one morning a week when she is able to sleep a little later than normal. It was calm. Peaceful. My how things can change in an instant.
They grow up so fast, don’t they. When you have your first child, everyone reminds you that if you blink, they’ll be grown. You might smile, sheepishly agree, and then go about your day. But maybe we ARE actually missing their childhood and don’t even realize it.
Should you homeschool your kids, put them in private school, or put them in public school? This seems to be a common topic for young parents, as well as one that stirs up strong debates in christian communities. I have a strong opinion on this, and I think the answer is clear.