This is the story of why people don’t foster. It is a story of hurt, pain, trauma, rescue, love and restoration. Yet in the midst of all of that, the future is unclear. After almost a year with our little foster daughter, tomorrow a judge will decide the long-term direction of her life.
My entire family was picking up my son from school one day last fall when my cell phone rang. It was one of those phone calls we had received many times before. A family had blown up, and there were kids now without a home. Could we help? We had 5 minutes to decide.
Our instructions were clear: Don’t take this little girl if we weren’t willing to someday adopt her. This girl’s situation was different than others we had received. There were long-term consequences to certain actions from those closest to her. It didn’t look like this family could be put back together again. If we agreed to receive her, then we were agreeing to receive her for the rest of her life if it came to that.
We got home, circled up our kids and prayed for God’s wisdom. They were certain we needed to take her. We were too. We said yes, and she was at our house just a few hours later.
This past year has been filled with so many memories. We’ve changed diapers, cut up chicken and sandwiches, and learned more about hair product and lotion. We’ve gone to the beach, to the snow, to the east coast and the gulf coast. We’ve been to the doctors, the therapists, the dentists and the specialists. We’ve laughed, danced, played, swam, sang, hurt and cried…together.
Needless to say, our hearts have become united together.
But tomorrow in court here in East Texas, a judge will let us know what the future holds for this little girl.
After a year of her being in our care, tomorrow the judge will have to make a tough decision. Will she extend the case an additional six months, or will she send it to trial the following week?
On one hand you have a mom who loves her and a few therapists that think she should have more time to get her act together. On the other you have other experts who see the adverse effects of dragging this little girl between two worlds, and how it keeps her heart on tilt.
We have prayed that God will grant wisdom to this judge.
Our prayer is not that we would get what we want. If that were the case, we would simply be praying that she land in our home. There is a fine line between praying for what we think is best for her, and just praying that we would get what we selfishly want. God loves her far more than we do. He is in control, and we trust Him. We want our hearts to align with His, and so we fight now, in the spiritual realm.
For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.
(Ephesians 6:12 ESV)
The biological mom in this case is not the enemy. Her attorney is not the enemy. The devil is the enemy, and he wants to destroy this little girl.
Would you please pray that God give this judge wisdom as she makes a judgement on this case? We would greatly appreciate it. I’ll be sure to let everyone know what happens soon.