The concept is intimidating. I mean, who really has the time to craft a thoroughly vetted, perfectly worded, and beautifully displayed family mission statement in their home? Is it just for decoration, or is there some intrinsic value in having one?
It’s one of those things we’ve considered creating for years, but the desire for perfection stopped us. One glance at Pinterest and you’ll see perfect families, with perfect mission statements all apparently constantly living up to every last word in them, all day every day…
Here’s a riddle: What is something everyone wants, but very few consider themselves to be? That’s right; a mentor.
I’ve talked to many people over the years – young and old – who each wished they had a mentor in their life. Young people that want someone to walk with them; college students that want the wisdom that someone older offers; young marrieds that want another couple to share with them the lessons they’ve learned; young families that want to learn parenting skills by watching how another family does it.
It’s true. My family has zero debt. No credit cards, no car loans, no mortgages… no nothing. And it feels really good. It is possible to live this way, and I’d like to share with you exactly how we do it.
Hopefully you read my last post about why we paid off our house early. That’s fundamental. To recap: We’re not trying to build wealth. We’re trying to be more generous. But generosity doesn’t just happen. It requires intentionality.
Honestly, I thought this day might never come. A little over 10 years ago, when my wife and I first discussed the idea of trying to pay off our house early, that day seemed like it was an eternity away. But here we are, and here it is. I'd love to tell you why we did...
Here’s what I think about families today: We’re good at sharing information with our kids, but terrible at helping them see Jesus. We pass along facts with the hope that they’ll inspire passion. But this never happens, nor was it ever intended to.
I’ve noticed a theme lately. It’s one that has come from many well-meaning, super-intentional, godly parents. It’s this: They think they’re failing. I mean flat out swinging and missing in being the parents they want to be. Days, weeks, months and even years are marked by many great memories, but ultimately feelings of discouragement when it comes to leading those they care about most.
My kids were going to take the world by storm. When they were first born, there was no limit to the vision my wife and I had for them. We weren’t hopeful they would be good kids; we were hopeful they would change the world. And then at some point, something changed.
Let’s face it – money is a taboo topic in families. As parents, we’re not quite sure how to address it with our kids, so many of us simply choose not to. We do this because we either don’t feel qualified, we don’t think it’s important, or because we don’t know what to say on the topic. I think this will help.
Many new marriages begin with it. Everyone has their reasons behind how the got it – and how it made sense at the time to go into it – but don’t necessarily know what to do get rid of it. I’m talking about debt, and how there is a positive aspect of bringing it into a new marriage.