Here’s what I think about families today: We’re good at sharing information with our kids, but terrible at helping them see Jesus. We pass along facts with the hope that they’ll inspire passion. But this never happens, nor was it ever intended to.
I’ve noticed a theme lately. It’s one that has come from many well-meaning, super-intentional, godly parents. It’s this: They think they’re failing. I mean flat out swinging and missing in being the parents they want to be. Days, weeks, months and even years are marked by many great memories, but ultimately feelings of discouragement when it comes to leading those they care about most.
My kids were going to take the world by storm. When they were first born, there was no limit to the vision my wife and I had for them. We weren’t hopeful they would be good kids; we were hopeful they would change the world. And then at some point, something changed.
Parenting is humbling. I mean, it sure is easy to stand in front of a group and teach them what is right and true. It’s an entirely different thing to have a “student” with you day in and day out watching to see if you “practice what you preach.” Their life ends up revealing yours.
We’ve all heard the stories. It’s the stories parents share in Christmas cards and at cocktail parties. You know, those stories where their child was just elected this or just happened to earn that award. It’s what we parents all do, because we love our kids. But are the stories we’re telling more than we think they are?
What do you do when you can tell your child is beginning to shut down on you? I’ve looked into the eyes of countless parents who were grasping for anything that might help “fix” their son or daughter. Maybe the answer lies in understanding more of what God has done with his children.
We are used to calling the expert. It’s what we do anytime something around us needs to be repaired. It might be when our car breaks down, our air-conditioner quits cooling, or when our back pain won’t seem to go away. If in doubt, we call in someone who knows what they’re doing. So why would we think differently when it comes to our own kids?